We’ve all experienced those moments where we make a big decision or find out some major news that could affect our future. We instantly start to panic as we start to obsess over our next move. This can create bad energy and have negative effects on the outcome of the decision. Learning to deal with it is crucial.
The future can be a scary place, but we must learn to use it as inspiration to push through these times of panic. Worrying will only hold you back from achieving your goals and will center your focus to all the things that can go wrong — instead of gravitating your focus to the benefits.
Learning to identify these emotions, designate time for them, and then move past them without creating a distraction can help you see the good in any situation.
Do You Believe In Yourself?
When we start to worry, it’s normally going to be a result of us not having belief in ourselves. Confidence might be high at the beginning, but that could be the adrenaline kicking in. Once that adrenaline runs out, we start to look at the things that could go wrong.
Let’s say you just accepted a new job or a promotion. You’re going to be excited and proud of yourself, naturally. As time passes, you start to worry about the added responsibilities and workload that you’ll encounter. The more you worry, the more pressure you build on yourself to perform well.
Designating Time to Worry
In order to combat these downward spirals, we need to find a way to re-install that confidence in ourselves. It’s not that we should avoid worrying or fight it, but rather designate time to embrace it — that way we can begin to move past it.
We must remind ourselves that we’ve been put in countless situations that present change and require adversity. Although it might be a new situation, the panic and worry we encounter are nothing new to us.
By giving yourself 15-30 minutes to address the negative energy, the cons, the disadvantages, and the concerns you might have, you’ll be able to better prepare yourself for those situations. The worry will soon become secondary, allowing you to work past it.
Working Past the Worry
Everybody is always learning to deal with their emotions in different ways, but there are some fundamental principles when learning to work past these panic-driven moments. Being able to put things into perspective, especially when feeling anxious, is no easy task — but it can be done.
A helpful trick is to outline a worst case, best case, and most likely to happen scenario for the situation you’re dealing with. When you can quantify the things you don’t want to happen, the things you want to happen, and the things that are likely to happen, you can start to prioritize your worry and introduce positive mind chatter to uplift your mood. We don’t have to live in the worst case, but we should always visit it to keep things in perspective. Nonetheless, letting it consume you will only lead to further disappointment.